An Analysis of a Romance Scam Letter: Implications for Businesses

Today I received a request from a Polish woman that I know. She wanted my advice about an email that she had received from some guy she didn’t know. She was about to respond to it but, knowing that I write on security matters, she decided to check with me first. Luckily for her, she did. When I read the forwarded email, it was clear at once that she had received a romance scam letter. But why had she almost responded? What elements did the writer use to lure her in?

I have written about these scams in the past (Phishing with Naked Women and Romantic Lures), and have categorized them as something I call salmon phishing. This is a type of email phishing that targets basic human instincts and needs. They appeal to greed, power, sex, love/romance, and sympathy. As such, they manage to bypass the logic filter, just as a salmon won’t listen to logic when he is about to head upriver to spawn and die. That’s what makes these email scams so powerful and, potentially, dangerous to companies and organizations. Almost everyone knows the emails are scams, but they can’t seem to stop the hope that they are not. A properly designed letter could compromise a company in the same way any other phishing scam could. It would just use a more deadly angle.

Anyway, here is the letter my friend received. You will probably see through it right away as I did, but that’s easy for us to say. We were not its target. Later, I will analyze the letter in more detail.

Derrick Hayes <>

Hello J***

Thanks for your quick response,I’m Derrick James Hayes,a USA Army Officer am a faithful person have one son called Mike i lost my parents at the age of 12 in a plane i don’t have any family expect my son am the Warrant Offices in the army .i have been in the army for the past 27 years and will be coming home by the end of next month as am ready to retired when i come home,At the moment i don’t have any plans for the future yet when i retire but looking forward to have a woman with a caring heart to spend the rest of my life together with. I’m am serious with what ever i do and i don’t play games..Take care and i will be waiting for your response


scam 1scam 2

First of all, if anyone happens to know this poor guy, will you please tell him his pictures are being used by a number of these scammers? Several other photos of him that I found lead me to conclude that his webcam may have been compromised. In addition, his head is often Photo Shopped (badly) onto other images. He is often seen in a military uniform.

Now, the first question I asked was, why did the scammer target a Polish woman? How did he know she even spoke English? This is not clear from her Facebook site, which is primarily in Polish. I did not ask her, but she may have posted some personal information elsewhere in English, such as on a dating site.

After looking into this further, I found that targeting nonnative English speakers is becoming more common. It could be because it has become well known among these scammers that they are often exposed by their use of English. Targeting a nonnative speaker may make their errors less obvious. It certainly triggered no warnings in the woman who got this email.

Here is a closer look at some of the blunders that gave him away and some of the approaches that almost succeeded.

1. Hello J***

Actually, this is her family name. Of course, even an American could be confused. It is not the first name she uses on her Facebook account but it does form the main part of her email address. It’s possible she uses this as a nickname on some other site.

2. Thanks for your quick response

 Response to what? There never was an initial letter from her, but this is common in these letters. They start off acting like they already know you.

3. no spaces after punctuation

Common in these letters.

4.  I’m Derrick James Hayes,a USA Army Officer am a faithful person have one son called Mike

Here’s where a native speaker would definitely see the red flags go up. USA Army Officer? Notice the lack of the pronoun, ‘I’ before am, a very common tipoff that this is from a Ghanaian scammer. These scammers are always “faithful”. Oddly, he has a son called Mike, which is the same name as the woman’s son. Did he do his research well or was he just lucky? In any event, this establishes some commonality, a bond: see how much alike we are? He was in the military and such men, especially those that are retiring, seem like a good catch for most women.

5. i lost

Very common not to capitalize ‘I’

6. i lost my parents at the age of 12 in a plane i don’t have any family expect my son

I think he meant, ‘except’, but it may be taken for a typo by a native speaker. In other emails under other identities, he has never corrected this error. The key here is that he’s trying the sympathy angle, which would definitely work on this woman. Other studies have found that women are more sympathetic than men. However, she may ask, where is your wife? More on this later.

7. i have been in the army for the past 27 years and will be coming home by the end of next month as am ready to retired when i come home,

This is the sentence that actually enabled me to track him down. He uses it with all his stolen identities. I don’t need to point out the stylistic problems, but even a native-English-speaking woman may ignore this because it is overridden by the sympathy element of the previous sentence. That’s the point with these scams and with romance in general. We are willing to overlook things we may not normally overlook. One woman on the website said that she knew it was a scam, but when the scammer asked for $40 for groceries for his son, she sent him the money. You figure it out. Anyway, I should point out that there is a similar website, (notice the plural) which seems more like a scam itself.

8. At the moment i don’t have any plans for the future yet when i retire but looking forward to have a woman with a caring heart to spend the rest of my life together with

Again, by this point the woman will ignore the grammar and odd vocabulary collocations. They seem always to be looking for “a woman with a caring heart” and, to set the romantic hook, “to spend the rest of my life together with”.  He probably found that my friend was a single woman, in her 40s with a child. This is the profile of the kind of women that these pathetic scammers try to take advantage of. If the woman is a widow, they may include a sentence saying that they, too, lost their partner. This is usually from breast cancer but occasionally it is more dramatic, like in a car crash. Again, the idea is to build a common bond. They know most of these women are dreaming of finding a sensible, dependable man who is looking for a life partner.

9. I’m am serious with what ever i do and i don’t play games..

They must have picked up this phrase from dating sites. They never play games. Most women over 40 want serious men.

Other Considerations

Scammers will often go through the trouble of setting up false Facebook and dating site accounts with the pictures that they sent the victim. Links to these sites are often included in the email. These sites disappear as soon as they hook the victim or if they get caught. Some victims find that the IP address of the scammer originates in the same region they are in. This leads them to wrongly conclude that the scammer can be trusted when, in truth, this can be arranged through a proxy server. These morons took a very long time to learn that their IP addresses can be traced. In fact, these guys seem to take a lot of time to learn anything. Many websites tell victims how to recognize scammers, but the scammers keep on doing the same things over and over. Sadly, they still succeed enough to keep them going.

As I researched the scammer that contacted my friend, I saw that she had received the more condensed version of the letter. His other letters go on at some length. Here are some other things he often adds.

I lost my wife 9 years ago and since then I’ve been living alone with my so she had a terrible accident that toke away her life and made me lonely in the World of Love.

My goal of dream in life is to find the one who will be with me and love forever and ever.I dislike lairs and disrespected people.I also like to meet a woman that is faithful and respectful.Am caring Loving Honest and also Understanding.

My rank is WO4 My military education includes the United States Military Academy (U.S.M.A) at West Point New York (Class=of 1977)=3B Infantry Officer Basic and Advanced courses Armed Forces Staff College and a U.S. Army War College Senior Fellowship at the Hoover Institution Michigan University.

Unfortunately, added to his bad grammar skills, he clearly has no mathematical ability. He’s been in the army for 27 years but graduated in 1977.

we are not allow to use cam and =phones in the camp for security reasons

 In other words, we can chat in text only without video or voice.

Do you like to play with the heart of a man?

 As in tennis or croquet?

So who are these guys? Well, they’re all not guys, for one thing. There are also female scammers, although they are fewer in number. Both male and female scammers pretend to be either male or female. Many of them have been tracked down because they were stupid enough to give out actual information about themselves that allowed victims to track them. We do have actual pictures of them and of who they claim they are. You can find that information here. You will see that they often try posing as gangster tough guys, often dangling gold chains, or, my favorites, covered in money. Below is a picture of the guy who probably scammed my friend. Even if my conclusion is wrong, the guy is a known scammer so I don’t think I’ll ruin his reputation much.


Then there’s the guy who tried to pass off George Clooney’s photo as a man looking for the right woman. You can imagine how excited the woman was when “George” told her that he wanted “a kind of woman like you in my life a woman like an angel believe me when i tell you,you are so cute so sweet looking so gorgeous so sexy to ignore have you been told that before please tell me more of your gorgeous self”. For laughs, the woman went along with the scam for a while. You can see this sometimes hilarious exchange here. Alas, George has apparently fallen on bad times and is now working on construction projects in Nigeria.

Business Implications

Despite the amateurish nature of these scams, they continue to work. That should be worrying because someday, someone is going to realize that these have the potential to do more than extract money from lonely men and women. When I received the forwarded letter, I was nervous about clicking on any links or photos. Then I realized I was not dealing with hackers but scammers. But couldn’t a hacker exploit this angle to get into your network? It would be more like a social engineering attack with an emotional hook. This could be a deadly combination. I’d just like to point out that there is a whole frontier out there with more dangers than we can conceive of at the present time. This is just a heads-up to keep your eyes open for the day that phishing and spear phishing scams take on this new emotional dimension. The bad news is that I can’t suggest a way for humans to stop being human anymore than I could tell a salmon not to be a salmon.


No matter what the phishing scam and what the weakness of your employees may be, you would never have to worry if your devices had dual operating systems that were separated at the hardware level. Contact InZero Systems (Email: to set up such a secure system in your company or organization.

39 thoughts on “An Analysis of a Romance Scam Letter: Implications for Businesses

  1. A man clamming to be CaptainPhillip John Michael try to scamm me but I don’t send any money and now other named Barry White send me a friend request with the same photo of the one pretending to be the Captain Phillip. I saw a photo of one David Young and is the same photo.


    1. There seems to be an increase in these scam letters recently. In fact, I’m going to write on this topic again soon because these scammers are getting trickier. I’m glad that you were able to find the truth before you were fooled into giving away money. Everyone one can be fooled for a while. Be skeptical.


      1. Steve this man tried to send me a friend request and when i checked out the pic hes using many aliases, anyone who gets a request of anyone claiming to be military needs to check it out as these scum are using this mans pic to scam women, watch for the name WILSON MARC this is one of those names


      2. It’s not the guy in the picture but some deviant in Nigeria or Ghana using the photo. Report him to as many sites as possible. I tried to alert Facebook but they said they could do nothing. I’ll keep trying. Thanks for the info.


      3. Hi i meet him 6 years know but hes name is Phiilliip Gabriel…from Arvada Colorado. . He has 2 son.. .. he so upset he was workig in Ghana long and they useing hes pictuure the scamers……he know aboutt he so angry … he sad he told to the FBI all ready…..


  2. I have spoken to one of the milatery fake profiles you have here it didn’t take me long to notice a scammer there are so proticktable (Derek) telling us they are a widower they have a child in milatery school LOOKING for a good god FEARING WOMAN. Bla bla bla I reported him and exposed him on Facebook I believe it’s because of me he is here instead of scamming and he was not my first either there where 2 more I reported


  3. I recently was propositioned to be a friend on yes infamous Social media cite. I am new to it. He claims he read a comment that I posted on Mega Pastor’s site. Why I Ask? Your so Beautiful is that really you. Your beautiful inside as well as out. Complimentary, Empathy plea, dramatic deaths, financial loss by mate, peradventure guardians opportunistic. I have no one! So as days transpired, I saw a comment posted cut n paste, what is this? He gasped. #1, clue uh,uh, then the content not at all what an American Man would say irregardless of race. So ? Where were you born? Foreign. Then Messenger communique he wrote in length his desires for the perfect wife, family, roles, goals, perfect woman, etc. Live is all that matters to me. The linguistics was not that bad, but the wording. Once asked where did you get these Q/A did I pass your survey? I thought he had put me on an E Harmony’s filter to type my response and to know what questions to asks next. Then at the end of our conversation one evening this popped up and I read the letters and it had verbatim things he had cut and pasted and recited in his lengthy prose. What seems to have occurred he would intertwine their responses with his own to make it sound more believable. He concluded I think we’re ready to let go and Let God. We had our first telephone conversation he did not sound as his picture looked. The face and linguistics didn’t match to my ear. Stating Origination Barbados known for Creole and French. So I’ve been searching how to bring him to Life or Death. I have no time for the wicked as Psa 11:5-7 declared God hates wickedness. Where do I go from here. He states he is the CEO and posted pictures of business yet when I googled him site gives not even his name just company name but many have the same Name and since he’s not local I can’t run on rail and see for myself. I will call the Chamber of Commerce, I will put on my Timeline about scammers and wait for all responses even his, if he is that truthful. He will forth come forth as pure gold. Otherwise he will be exposed. He has claimed usage if dating sites well inferred. As I denied never using them, not even interested in the one currently using but I like information quick and referrals to sources and responding to news content. I like writing. I think I would make an excellent columnists, I’ve been getting swirls of Likes. It’s going to my head. I try to post things that make people react and respond. Thank you. I would like to have you as my guest hundreds could use your Intel.


  4. Hola actualmente ese hombre sigue estafando a mujeres de Venezuela y se hace llamar macario (Hello, this man is still cheating Venezuelan women and calling himself Macario)


      1. Olá! Esse homem esta falando comigo mas des da primeira vez vi que não era normal, as palavras melosas. Insisti muito ate falar com ele pela câmera e a mesma pessoa da foto. Um homem lindo bem vestido de óculos e farda, pois e o próprio so muda de nomes para mim se chama Gen.David Felix


  5. This man is going by the name of stamer peter now, he as asked for 3,198 :86p to get him out of Syria he says he has a son Called Gerard Lucas, The thing that bothered me really is that yes found out my home telephone number and he has been ringing my house luckily my son and husband answered the phone and he has not spoken a word I have got more information on this person, if anybody is interested. And yes I am playing him.


    1. If you haven’t given him your number, he probably got it off of Facebook or other social media sites. Even if you make your phone number private on Facebook (set to “Only You”) there is a technique people can use to get it. See my next post. Sometimes, these guys will threaten you so it’s better not to talk to him. You can ignore the threats. He may try to blackmail you in some way.


      1. You are not communicating with the man in the photo. You are communicating with someone using his photo to trick you. Eventually, he will tell you some sad story and ask for money. He may ask for gift cards. I know you may have feelings for him, but, for him, you are only a possible source of money. I know it may be difficult, but stop answering his messages. He may beg you to answer. He may claim new problems. He may even threaten you, but never contact him again and move on. At least you’ve learned a lesson.


  6. Julia! you said that his name is Phiilliip Gabriel…from Arvada Colorado ,so can u tell me that’s is photos in this Topic, right?.


    1. Now I try to ask for marriage and that is rich I know is called Anderson Douglas or Douglas Francis has Facebook with this photo, I think they are Nigerian blacks


  7. Éste hombre vuelves a estar estafando hace meses que está hablando conmigo tratando de enamorarme y pidiéndome dinero con cincuenta mil y unas cosas unas veces está en peligro otras veces su hijo se está muriendo otras veces tiene que enviar enviar sus uniformes otras veces tiene que mandar 8000000 € a España en oro que dice que recogió en su salidas al campo por favor tener mucho cuidado efectivamente yo tengo como 10 fotografías de él

    (Here’s the Google translation: This man is again defrauding for months that he is talking to me trying to fall in love and asking for money with fifty thousand and a few things is sometimes in danger other times his son is dying other times he has to send his uniforms other times he has to send 8000000 € to Spain in gold that says he picked up on his field trips please be very careful indeed I have like 10 pictures of him) – SM


  8. I am friend’s with the man in the Polish scam and many more. He is a Master Sergeant in the US Army in Damascus, Syria.

    He is aware that pictures of four years ago are being used and were stolen.


    1. Please note that the picture of this man was use to scam me from March 2021 to October 2021…then he try again using General Morris Morgan and as General Morgan he’s back as James Walter Charles and contacted me again..he scam me good..


  9. I know him as General GeorgeWhite stationed in Kabul in the U.S ARMY.seems he thinks we are engaged wants some ITunes card and Steam cards and needs 3,700dlls sent to United Nations for his leave funny I don’t .


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